When You Love Someone

I've been thinking about 500 Days of Summer. And when I first watched it, the character Tom and I related on this level: we were both hurt by someone we cared for. But as I've watched the movie more and more, besides the fact of me already having high regard for the actor playing that role, I saw things I didn't notice that were negative. I was and have been "Tom" for so long. He didn't really love and care for Summer. He was angry that she didn't choose him, and was angry she wasn't making HIM happy. He didn't once think about what was best for her, and he instead, let her consume his mind. He fell in love with love. He was in love with everything he made up Summer to be, but not with the actual girl. He didn't care about her , maybe not at all, or maybe at the end. He believed one person had to make his life have meaning, and that wasn't her responsibility at all. And I've realized that I have done this. I have been like this. I put so much into what I believed someone was supposed to be, and I let myself fall for the image in my head, not the actual person. And when you truly love someone, you aren't hateful that it didn't work out between you. Tom had the right to feel hurt, but he treated Summer like she owed him something, and she didn't. She didn't treat him right either, which just proves that they were terrible together. The thought of love is lovely, but isn't tangible. You have to give yourself to experience love. The best kind of love is not when someone just loves you, it's when you're the one that's loving someone else.