I normally do not allow myself to ever hate anyway. Hate is such a strong word, and it can mean much more than strongly disliking someone. Hate can lead to cruel thinking and behavior, and so if I ever say "hate", I only mean strongly dislike. I could never hate something enough, I believe, to kill or really hurt, purposefully. But I do have someone that, due to what they have done to me, said, acted, etc, I have had some cause to hate them.
People who are controlling, perverted, bullies, sick jerks... They drive me insane. And yes, this defines the person I am talking about. They are no longer in my life, which is excellent, but it was hard to take charge and force them out. They had a lot of control over me. And that is a very scary thought. No one should have so much control over you where you are willing to do things you normally wouldn't do in order to please them. That's just wrong, plain and simple. You should never let anyone pressure you into doing something you really don't want to do.
I am usually good about this. If I don't want to do something, even as simple as hanging out, I usually find a way to talk myself out of it. I generally know how to say no, thank you. But sometimes, when someone knows that the full throttle attack won't work, they will break you down, little by little. They will subtly introduce something into your life that normally you wouldn't accept, but by the time it's "full throttle" they have already engraved it into you.. just by taking baby steps. That's the smoothest move anyone could take, and sadly, it works most of the time. And sometimes, after it's already occurred, the "victim" knows what's going on. Yet, they don't put a stop to it...because that person. they just care sooo much about. WELL, HELL, if they really cared, they wouldn't be so damn controlling AF. Get real. They don't give a shit.
Don't put yourself in a situation where YOU are not in control of yourself. Don't give that to someone else. (exception: if you are sick or at the doctors, etc) Peer pressure is messed up, and I have never really been one to give into it. If I don't have a drive for something, I don't usually do it. That's just me. But when someone is trying to make you do something, and you don't really feel like doing it (for various reasons), don't let them talk you into it. Plain and simple. They are worthless to you. No person is worth your while if you they won't respect what you say.
Even if it's just a guy trying to convince you to him (or a girl), and you say "Uh, I don't like you" and he doesn't respect that, he is NOT worth your while. He needs to back off. It's rude, and bullying, and controlling. I wouldn't ever force myself on someone. Or try to make them think they like me when they clearly don't. It's stupid. People need to learn that they should respect others and not be so damn controlling and pressuring.
I have tried hard to kick those ass holes out of my life. I don't need someone else telling me what I should or shouldn't do, especially if I don't feel comfortable with what they are saying. Never let someone force you into a situation you DON'T feel comfortable with. If someone is telling you, "get in the car" and (you know them of course) you don't feel comfortable being alone with them, keep walking, or even call your parents, the cops, or someone you trust that will stay on the phone with you.
I cannot stress how important it is to stand up for yourself, and not to let someone push you around. It has caused me SO many problems when I didn't put my foot down, and the past two years, I have really been learning to do that. And it takes away so much stress. Honest to goodness. (but not all stress, I will add.) Just be wise with who you choose as friends, and who you listen to. You can be friends with those kinds of people, but DON'T be close. No. It is foolish. Be smart.
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